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How to be confident ?
How to be confident ?
26
Feb
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We once received a lovely message on our Facebook page sent by a client who was loving our clothes and their very feminine style. Paradoxically, when we started talking, she told us that she was afraid of wearing clothes that would show her body and that she was feeling like she didn’t have the body type required to wear this type of clothes. She was also scared of what other people would think of her wearing too feminine clothes and she felt like she didn’t have the right to do it.

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We once received a lovely message on our Facebook page sent by a client who was loving our clothes and their very feminine style. Paradoxically, when we started talking, she told us that she was afraid of wearing clothes that would show her body and that she was feeling like she didn’t have the body type required to wear this type of clothes. She was also scared of what other people would think of her wearing too feminine clothes and she felt like she didn’t have the right to do it.

She is probably not the only woman thinking like that and I feel like this is really sad. Clothes and fashion in general are made to express ourselves, not to deprive ourselves in any way. We want to have fun with them, to wear whatever we want to wear and I don’t agree with people that think that with some body types you can’t wear this type of clothes because of some fashion rules.

There are so many rules in the world and they also want to add rules in fashion which is supposed to be a fun thing, a way of expressing our freedom and our differences. We are going to talk about these rules in another post but right now I want to focus on the fact of not daring wearing some type of clothes because of others. In my opinion, this is due to a lack of confidence and we had a pool on our Instagram page lately. The result was a little bit more than 50% saying that they were confident which is good because that’s the majority but still, there were more than 40% saying that they were lacking confidence.

Therefore, I decided to talk more about that in order to help people to be more confident because I’ve been there and I have learnt to stop paying attention to what other people think and to be proud of what I am. Here are my tips to become confident. They really work.

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PEOPLE WILL TALK :

You have to know that people will always talk so if you start paying attention to what they will say, to what they will think of you, you won’t do anything.

People are not mean, if you think about it, this is so easy to start talking about other people when you are with your friends or family. Everyone has an opinion on everything so it is so easy to judge and that’s something that we all have to work on. That means that if people are judging you, talking about you, this is their issue.

Of course, if a friend gives you a nice advice, that’s different and it’s well intentioned. You can take it. If, in the contrary, you are surrounded by people judging you, sending you bad vibes, just let them go and start being you.

HEAD UP :

Wear your crown up ! This is something that I had to work on myself : I used to try to hide myself, without even noticing it, I was scared of people looking at me, I was trying to avoid them, trying to go unnoticed.

I realised that by doing that, you cut yourself from amazing people too !

You want to be proud of yourself, on what you are looking like, on what you truly are. When you look confident, people respect you. If you look like there is something that is not right with you, people won’t come to you and they will believe that there is actually something that is wrong with you. Even if it is not the case, because, this is the image that you reflects only by acting like that.

There are so many kind and positive people around you that just want to meet the beautiful person that you are.

Be proud of you, stand up straight, shoulders down, head up and even if you are not yet, act as if you were confident.

BE KIND

You don’t want other people to judge you so do your best not to judge other people. We were all born nice and society made us distancing from one another. Human beings are made to love and support each other, and guess what, when you do, most of the time, it will surely come back to you.

Make a compliment to someone, you will make his day even more beautiful, you will give him more confidence and you will feel amazing.

Smile to other people, even if you don’t know them. This may feel weird at first but you know that you are doing a great thing and sending positivity to others.

You will look more confident, besides, studies showed that smiling improves happiness.

IMPROVE YOURSELF

Why are you lacking confidence ? Do you feel like you are not enough ?

First of all, you are. You are on this beautiful Earth for a reason and you are needed.

A lot of people complain because they feel like they are not pretty enough, not smart enough, not… You get the idea. Instead of complaining, why not working on the things that we would love to change.

I know that’s not always easy but that’s an amazing work to do. You will be with yourself your whole life so you better appreciate your own company.

Set goals, write them somewhere you can see them everyday. I have so many goals and I’m so happy when I wake up in the morning because I’m getting closer to achieving them. One of them is for me to get the splits. I am practicing every single day -no excuses- to get closer to this goal. I am not only doing that to get better at yoga but most importantly to give me confidence to start new things and to achieve more goals.

Take time for you to get better everyday. You are already great, but we can all getter better so start now and you will feel so proud and confident seeing your improvements.

DO IT AFRAID

Fear is part of life, and that’s a great thing. Our ancestors had fear because they had to protect themselves from animals. Now, thanks to the modern society, we don’t have to fear the nature anymore. We don’t have to protect yourself as our ancestors had to do it and we can now master the fear.

When I was at school, I had this friend who was very shy to speak in front of other people. I was scared too but she was even more and everyone would notice it because her beautiful face was turning red all the time. Still she had to do it because, that’s school and you can’t escape from this type of exercises and now that I’m out of school, I get how great it was.

My friend just got better at this because she was doing it all the time. She was doing it afraid.

She even started enjoying it and getting a lot more comfortable answering questions in class.

If you are scared of doing something that you know will be good for you, do it anyway. You will get more and more confident everytime.

EXPECT THE GOOD

My main issue was that I was too pessimist, thinking that there were a lot of bad people in the world and that I had to protect myself from them. I was so wrong ! When you expect negative things, they come to you because you attract them. Instead, you want to expect the good and to believe that you will meet amazing people.

Maybe you had some bad experiences in the past and you feel like you don’t want to be disappointed anymore. I get that. Still, there are so many great people around you and like I said before, if you don’t believe that, you won’t meet them, only because of your thoughts.

Be confident in the fact that we are living in an amazing world, don’t watch the news all the time, the real nature of humans is positive, trust that.

WORK ON YOUR IMAGE

We are living in a society that places a lot of value in appearances. It may not be the most important thing in life but this is how it is. We are judged by the way we look so it has to reflect the beautiful person that we are inside.

You don’t want other people to miss the amazing human being that you are and you want to work on the image that you reflects so that you can attract the people that you really want in your life.

Besides, your look is the very first thing that other people will see when they meet you so since you never get a second chance to make a first impression, work on that. You want to feel like your look reflects what you want other people to see in you. That’s amazing, you can actually control that !

In order to be more confident in your appearance, we have a great guide available on our blog, if you want to find your own style.

BECOME A MASTER

I used to work for a company and at that time, I felt like the only thing that matters was the fact that I was earning money and that I was in a safe place. Like a lot of people, I was not happy at my job and I was sad to spend my whole days doing something I hated so much.

I was passionate of so many other things and I wasn’t exploring them because I was so busy at work, thinking that mastering my passions was a waste of time. Again, so wrong !

If you are lucky enough to be passionate about something, master it ! Work on it, learn about and share about it to others. When you know a lot about something, it gets so easier to talk about it because you are so confident on what you have learnt.

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

An amazing exercise that you can do to be more confident everyday is to say positive affirmations out loud. This might sound silly and you may look weird when you start doing that but it really work and a lot of people around the world experienced a change in their lives, thanks to that.

Basically, you want to say sentences such as “I am pretty”, “I am confident”, “I am smart”, out loud, maybe in front of a mirror, and to truly believe them. By saying the same things everyday, you will change your mindset and you will attract these things that you want in your life. If you don’t feel pretty, -and you already are- you will start feeling pretty. Same thing for confidence. It really works.

CREATE

We are living in an amazing world where it’s getting easier and easier to create our own things, especially with the Internet. We can meet so many people, we can learn so many things easily and like I said before, we can master our passions.

If you don’t like your job, maybe you feel like you are not good enough, you are wrong. You are not stupid, you just have to find the thing that you are so passionate about and to become even better at it.

Don’t worry if you don’t have find you dream job yet, if you don’t really know what to do. This just means that you have to create something. A lot of great entrepreneurs created amazing things because they were looking further than others.

We are all here for a reason and we just have to find why, that’s how amazing life is. Stay open and meet new people. Be confident in your future, intuition and inspiration will come to you.

MORNING ROUTINE

Here is another amazing thing that I do myself and that more and more people do as well. You have to create your own morning routine to improve the amazing person that you are and to get the amazing life that you deserve.

I recommend you the book Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod which explains it very well and helped so many people all over the world.

Basically, you want to devote some time to do the things that will help you achieving your goals and becoming even better. You can read, workout, meditate, say positive affirmations, express your gratitude… It doesn’t take much time and it’s the best investment that you could do for yourself.

Starting your days so well will improve your confidence all day long.



These were my tips to be more confident. They worked so much for me, for other people around me and for so many people on this planet. Just remember that confidence comes from within. You want to start believing now.



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